Self-esteem is very hard to fake
What does the opposite of low self-esteem really mean? It doesn’t imply arrogance, though the term self-confident has occasionally been used to describe vain characteristics. A high level of self-esteem essentially means respecting yourself as a person, treating yourself with the same attitude that you would give one of your own friends or peers. This is an important step to increasing your level of self-esteem: viewing your life objectively. If you look at yourself through someone else’s eyes, you may find plenty to love and little to hate. You may also be able to better pinpoint negative behaviors that can be changed, assuming you want to change.
High self-esteem has been called the “immune system” of the soul, something that can help a person to cope with life’s problems and sidestep problems. What builds self-esteem in the first place? Self-esteem is very hard to fake. People who try too hard to be self-confident usually give themselves away. Self-esteem is an internal peace that exudes to the surface of a man or woman’s skin. Self-esteem evolves along with the human organism, starting from a child’s developmental process into adulthood. The child learns to be happy and confident with his or her abilities because of positive reinforcement learned early on. Beyond this stage, self-esteem is increased the more success an adolescent (and eventually and adult) enjoys in life. Success naturally makes people feel good about the world and about their own capacity to contribute to it. The more challenges they overcome they more energized they feel. You could say that success is like a healthy vitamin, as opposed to the addictive drug of failure. Your body has to cope somehow with its surroundings. Better that you nourish it with positive feelings rather than expose it to chronic misery!
What is something that you have always wanted to do but were a little afraid to do? You can increase your self-esteem by choosing to decide to do that thing now. Increase your self-esteem and increase your success.
Increase Your Self-Esteem and Increase Success
Self-esteem is defined as a person’s overall “self-appraisal…their own level of competence, beauty and worth.” Interestingly, self-esteem can involve a person’s belief system, as well as their emotion. Self-esteem can be tied in with a person’s desires and belief-obligations, as well as what they feel is their own level of competence. Emotionally, self-esteem can be affected by feelings of pride and shame as well as joy and despair. You can tell a lot about a person’s self-esteem in the way they carry themselves. Body language as well as tone of voice and facial expressions can reveal qualities of assertiveness, shyness, confidence or nervousness.
Many people suffer from low self-esteem as well as other self-limiting beliefs, which pummel them into a state of non-action. Self-esteem is not limited to one aspect of a person’s body or mind, nor is it all-inclusive. Some people may hate their physical appearance but still hold their mental prowess to be average to high in ability. Others may discount their abilities or their worth, even though they enjoy showcasing their body for attention. Some people may hate every aspect about themselves. Whatever the case, these personalities are said to have low self-esteem. Because of these limiting beliefs, people have been known to sabotage their own future by putting forth careless efforts.
What do you have to do to increase your self-esteem so that you can be even more successful – professionally and personally?
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How does one ensure success?
Isn’t it true that it’s hard to become successful in life and that, as many inspiring success stories as there are out there, there are twice as many depressing stories that don’t amount to anything? Yes, it is true that bad things happen and that some visions of success are unrealistic. It would not be wise to covet the riches of a movie star or the fame of a national figure. This is an unrealistic expectation for most, propagated by the media, an institution that relies on the sensational and the unbelievable in order to sell their product. Before you start to define what success really means you have to determine your own personal definition. What do you want out of life, in the short-term and the long-term?
Setting goals is a must. I believe in setting ambitious goals that are in alignment with what you want in your life. When you set short-term goals, you are giving your mind more consistent reinforcement. You are not focusing on one monumental feat every 5 years, but little goals perhaps every week or even every day. It’s about progress and achieving milestones along the way to your long-term and life-time goals. The more goals you fulfill, even if they are relatively small, the better you will feel about yourself. Celebrate your achievements, no matter how small, and forgive yourself for your mistakes. This is what makes or breaks self-esteem. Increase your self-esteem by measuring your progress. You know if you are making progress you are on the path toward achieving your goals.
The single most important thing that has to happen for 2 people to do business together
TRUST
Trust is the single most important thing that has to occur for two people to do business together. If this is true, how much ‘trust’ training have you had? Do people trust you? How do you know if they do or they don’t?
How do people feel about you? What do you want people to feel and think about you and what you do for them? If you had to pick one word that you would want people to say or think about you, what would that one word be? Now, what has to happen to create experiences for clients and prospects so when they think of you, they think of this one word. When they refer you to others, they tell them this one word because it is how they feel about you.
When people trust you, they typically do what you tell them to do. You say, do x, and they say, okay. They eagerly refer you to others who they think will benefit from your services.
What do you have to do and who do you have to become to enhance your business and the relationships you have with your clients and prospects. It’s all about them having the best experience with you and what you provide to them. How do create trust with clients and prospects? Think about these questions and come up with some single, simple, doable thing that you can implement right away to take your business to the next level of success.
4 Steps to a Successful Life
It’s time to turn the page and accept that this is Chapter Two in your life! If you want to make a change and start living a higher quality of life, then you must take decisive action. Success is whatever you make it to be. Never believe that you are destined for failure while others are just “lucky” in all their endeavors. Everyone has control over his or her destiny. It’s just that some people are unwilling to go the distance to achieve these dreams. What is the key to success anyway? Before you answer this question, you have to first consider what success means to you.
What is success anyway? Is success the same thing as money, fame or power? Is it influence over other people? Is it being the best parent possible? Or is success really what you leave behind in this world when your legacy ends?
Step 1: Define What Success Means to YOU
The definition of success depends entirely upon you. Success doesn’t have a definition in exact parameters; rather it is defined as “an event that accomplishes its intended purpose.” That intended purpose belongs to you. The truth is that many people today are unsure of what they want or even what success means to them. You have to first determine what you want out of life and what makes you feel complete.
Step 2: Start by Focusing on a Broad Goal and then Create Simpler Goals
You decide what success is and how you will achieve it. This is the vision that you set for yourself. Start by focusing in on a picture from the future. How do you see yourself? Are you actively involved in a career? Are you a family person or just filthy rich? This is your broad goal, your long-term vision. This is the primary direction you are pursuing. This is something that you want and that you are willing to work hard to get.
Now that you have decided on a long-term destination, it’s time to create a “path” to this destination made up of short-term goals. After you create your set of goals attach a specific time frame to each one. This helps in motivating you to get started because you now have a specific date you ideally want to achieve each one.
Step 3: Take Action!
After you set your goals you must take decisive action. Try and feel a sense of responsibility for your list of goals. Resist putting the blame on anyone else, including “this cruel world” that makes dreams impossible. It may help you say your goals out loud, “affirming” your resolve to carry them out.
You must be committed to this task and take seriously the steps you laid out for yourself. Try and think of these commitments, not as personal wishes, but as unbreakable plans that you have made with someone else.
Step 4: Know the Importance of Persistence and Belief
Persistence is another important principle to keep in mind, as you will need to cultivate this quality when the going gets tough. Persistence is slightly different from commitment. Persistence is known as “continuing or repeating behavior.” Persistence helps you keep on progressing in your life, even when obstacles arise and even when you are at your lowest ebb. How can you learn persistence? Is it truly a learnable quality or is it a genetic gift?
Persistence is closely linked with belief. When you believe something, when you are passionate about something, you are willing to fight for that belief. You are willing to talk enthusiastically to others about this belief. You are willing to travel across the world for this belief. You may even be willing to die for this belief. This confidence is what allows you to stay persistent even in the worst of times. Continue to pursue positive influences in your life, sources that are refreshing, like supporters who say you can do it!
Adhering to these principles will help make you even more successful. You can believe that because, again, you determine your success.
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How strong is your belief?
I was talking to someone the other day who was telling me how many things they had going on in their life. Interestingly enough, none of these things were moving him forward toward the achievement of his goals. He was telling me how much time each of these things were taking and it would be months before he could focus on activities that would help him make progress on achieving his goals. We talked about his desires to achieve various goals and how he would like to have x, y, and z. It isn’t about how much time you spend, necessarily, on something, it is your focus and belief about something. If you focus on the ‘right’ activities and believe it strongly enough, you can make things happen. That is my belief anyway.
Because he likes to fly fish, I told him a story of how I love to fly fish with yellow humpies. That is my favorite fly and that is what I use the majority of the time. I like the name and the way it looks – what can I say. We were fishing with a guide in New Zealand many years ago and they had so much rain that you could fish in the steams and the lake was very murky so you couldn’t see much. The guide told us we had to fish by the banks and sink the flies to catch anything. I told him that I use a humpie and I have always caught fish with it. He said they won’t bit on a floating fly and they won’t eat the humpie. I told him that I wanted to use it anyway and that I will catch the first fish and the biggest fish. He probably thought I was a stupid woman and ignorant so left me alone. When he was over fishing with my husband, I was happy to do my own fishing in my own spot that I picked. When the guide saw that I had caught a fish, he couldn’t believe it. I told him that I was going to catch the first fish and the biggest fish. The biggest fish was yet to be determined as we were just getting started.
When I told this person this story he commented to me that I had strong belief. He said he has seen many people with strong belief manifest things into reality even when most people would say it wouldn’t work. If believe that you can have belief so strong that you will manifest it into reality and the results you want. Think about the time you may have had this strong of belief and what happened.
What do you believe? Do you believe in something so strongly that you have manifested it in your life? Do you need to gain this belief again in your life for something so you can be on track to achieving your goals? Believe in yourself, believe in a proven process, believe that what you do will work and it will.
Are you planning to work on Friday, July 3?
Success-oriented people do whatever it takes and work on “holidays” when needed. Some people use the company holiday as a day off, the snow day as a day to stay home and not work, and other various excuses to make themselves feel good about not doing what they know they need to do to achieve their goals. With the 4th of July being on Friday, and for many companies this is a holiday so their office is closed, how many people view this as a three day weekend and not consider working 2 or 3 hours early in the morning before their family gets up? How many people actually have Friday planned as a partial work day to get more done and make headway towards achievement of their goals for the year?
I’m not suggesting that you should work all the time and not have balance in your life. I am suggesting that for many who aren’t on track to achieving their goals for the year, that perhaps working 2-5 hours on a “holiday” that falls on a weekday could help them make progress on activities necessary for them to be on the path of goal achievement. You can work for a portion of your day and still spend quality time with you family doing something fun for the rest of the day.
I guess it comes down to, how committed are you to achieving your goals this year. Are you going to make the excuse at the end of the year that it was the economy and that is why you didn’t achieve what you said you wanted? How badly do you really want to achieve your goals? Are your goals a ‘nice to have’ should you get lucky or are you serious about what you say you want to achieve?
