Self-control is defined as “control of oneself” or the “ability to master one’s desires and impulses. Interestingly, self-control is actually perceived in a number of ways. Psychologically, self-control usually refers to a person’s self-perception, belief system, as well as the ability to set boundaries on their own behavior.
First understand that everyone has a system of belief. Nobody truly believes in nothing. Before you analyze what self-control means to you, you must first analyze what you believe. You are your own community and you set the guidelines as to what is right or wrong, productive or unproductive.
Let’s say that you have a plan to become successful in your career. This is the mission of your self-contained community. Therefore, any thoughts or actions that run contrary to your mission must be extinguished. However, when you are a self-starter, then you are in charge of all your faculties and must have them work for you, not independently of you. Sometimes people do require rigid structure in their life in order to get things done. If you are naturally inclined to take it easy, if you tend to procrastinate, or if you are easily distracted from completing a simple goal, then these are disruptive factors in your community. You must work to maintain self-control to meet the standard that you have set for yourself.
Self-control doesn’t necessarily mean resisting something that is “wrong”; rather, it refers to taking steps to control one’s own tendencies if they are observed to be counterproductive. If you want to learn the quality of self-control, first decide what your mission is and what would be the best way to learn positive qualities. Don’t underestimate the value of enlisting others to help you. When you are accountable to someone else, it helps. Celebrate your successes, no matter how small. It is about making progress in life that brings us the success we want and deserve.